My eyelids are red and swollen and it hurts to blink. Will my eye be okay? any other mommas out there have this happen to them? Also, how do I get him to stop biting?! I've tried everything!Answer Question
Answer by looovemybabies at 11:27 PM on Sep. 16, 2009
You poor thing! Your eye will heal, I'd use a warm compress (tea-bags work nicely) as you would for a sty.
As for the biting. My son bites. Most of the time it happens around the time he's teething, so I give him some leeway there. But on those occasions where he bites out of anger or frustration, I pick him up, look him directly in the eye, tell him sternly "you do not bite!" and place him in his playpen for a minute.
The advice "bite them back!" - I disagree with this completely. I get that it's supposed to show them that biting hurts, but any teething toddler has bitten him/herself plenty - they know it hurts. If you bite back, you either send a message that biting is ok, turn it into a game, or totally confuse them (like giving a smack while saying, "mustn't hit!") IMO, removing them from the situation, getting on their level and telling them what they did wrong teaches them without hurting them back.
Answer by lissarae7 at 12:47 AM on Sep. 17, 2009
Answer by 07lilmama1108 at 1:53 AM on Sep. 17, 2009
Answer by sparrow1138 at 8:08 AM on Sep. 17, 2009
Answer by coala at 10:09 AM on Sep. 17, 2009
I honestly don't understand why so many parents give the advice "bite them back!" - whether it's a "little" bite or not, retaliation just teaches your child that violence begets violence. Not to mention the fact that human bites can be dangerous, especially an ADULT's bite - do you have any idea how much bacteria is swarming around in your mouth?
Seriously, most kids go through a biting phase at some point, in toddlers, it's probably due to teething. Just remove your child from the situation, RESTRAIN THE IMPULSE TO BITE BACK, and talk to your child about why it's wrong to cause others pain (begin working on learning the "golden rule"). Then help your kid find more appropriate outlets for agressive feelings/frustration, and encourage them to develop self control.
Answer by lissarae7 at 8:47 PM on Sep. 17, 2009
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