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How to set limits and stick to them?

My 14 yo Sd is really into her laptop and being on Facebook and so on, to the point that as soon as she gets home, she gets on it, and will be on it all day long for hours. She saves her homework till the last minute, and doesn't do any of her chores at all, her room hasn't been cleaned in months.
Dh will get on her case about this, but he hasn't set any time limits on her or enforces anything so it doesn't really help. I mentioned to him that it doesn't seem healthy for her to be on the computer for 7 hours a day, but how is the best way to set some limits for her and stick to them?


Asked by Anonymous at 1:21 PM on Sep. 17, 2009 in General Parenting

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Answers (3)
  • The problem most parents have with setting limits to anything or enforcing rules within the home is how it's going to inconvenience THEM. In this case you'll have to listen to her whine, complain, etc all day and all night, tell you how mean you are, etc. Most parents will then justify the 7 hours just so they don't have to listen to it and "feel bad". You have to be willing to be put out a bit.

    Answer by EireLass at 1:28 PM on Sep. 17, 2009

  • Have her bring the computer, or the keyboard, and set it on the kitchen table, when her time limit is up, this way she won't be able to use the computer.

    Answer by Bmat at 1:28 PM on Sep. 17, 2009

  • Work before play.

    You can block her internet access until her work is completed.

    Answer by rkoloms at 2:41 PM on Sep. 17, 2009