So. Long story short, somehow, I got caught up in my BIL's bizarre love relationship.
It was all, "Kaidyn (me) gossips about Kim(BIL's gf) to Mom (MIL)" blah blah blah.
Which... I wasn't. I was telling my MIL - because we're relatively close, about what Kim would say to me. Like.. for instance, "Kim wants to go camping, but I was telling her that if I went, I'd be eaten alive."
I don't know HOW this entitles as "gossiping" but after a huge blowout, where the BIL called me a chink, and a liar, and I was only "christened" into the family because I sh!t out a baby... I butted out. Heh... I think, I wasn't in..but whatever!
I still talk to Kim, but we don't approach the topic of BIL at all. I haven't spoken to BIL ever since blow out.
But NOW, he's talking bad about me again. Kim has no feelings for BIL, BIL does. I'm not involved. I could care less. I just talk to a friend, period.
I don't appreciate the name calling.
Answer by K_Sawyer at 9:18 PM on Sep. 17, 2009
Answer by treynlisa at 9:36 PM on Sep. 17, 2009
I personally would not pursue the time to have a conversation with your BIL. It was wrong how he went off on you like that. He's seems very immature if he couldn't approach you in "another way". Look at it this way, If your sibling/s came up to your DH & was nasty like that towards him, would you have him take care of the situation or would you take over that conversation & tell them that you do not appreciate them talking to your DH like that. In other words I think that this is a good time for your DH to step in. It's his side of the family & he should let DB know that he doesn't appreciate him talking to his wife in that behavior & IF he can't be respectful, to just stay away from the situation all together. There is no need for bad remarks that has been made or intended about you. Your DH should let his DB know that when he insults you, he is insulting him. You are his wife & he needs to give him that respect.
Answer by onespecialmom at 9:51 PM on Sep. 17, 2009