Keep a journal of any visits,phone calls, money he gives, or any request from him for visitation that he does not follow through on. It will show the amount of involvement in the child's life. This is very important, because if he suddenly decides to be a jerk and try to take the child from you, you will have something to show the court. If you've never been married, and there are no custody papers, he technically has no rights to visitation, regardless of child support, so you can let him see the child on your terms- I personally would recommend you let him visit in the presence of a trusted, but neutral friend or relative and not let him take the child anywhere alone - you could meet at a park or friend's place with a yard so they can spend time together... Also, record any arguments or threats if any come up, just in case they may be needed for court. A lawyer is crucial for this situation.
at 2:47 PM on Sep. 18, 2009