Why are there so many children in the orphanages? Do you think they were coersed into abandonment? Is it better being an a mom if it's not from the US? Morally is it okay to take a child if you don't know why they are there? IDK! Anyone know anything about the subject? I find it interesting.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 5:01 AM on Sep. 19, 2009 in Adoption
Answer by Anonymous at 6:51 AM on Sep. 19, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 10:30 AM on Sep. 19, 2009
I really don't get people who say it's better to adopt from the US than other countries. If a child needs a home I don't think it's nationality should matter. What worries me are the stories of child trafficking where the children are kidnapped from their parents. Adoption is big business abroad just as it is here and can lead to corruption. I also worry about the adoptee losing it's culture and heritage although I've seen some very encouraging posts from aparents who realise the effect of this and are trying to honor their child's heritage. And then there's the reunion side of things. Being adopted from another country does make searching extra hard, although it need not be if every thing is above board and good records are kept. I guess I just think the paps need to be very mindful of the downside of adopting internationally.
Answer by onethentwins at 10:40 AM on Sep. 19, 2009
Answer by doodlebopfan at 3:24 PM on Sep. 19, 2009
I have no issues with international adoptions. Very few adoptions each year are actually international adoptions. Out of of 100,000 adoptions each year only 1/3 are from other countries. Half are through foster care and the other half are domestic adoptions.
Answer by frogdawg at 3:51 PM on Sep. 19, 2009
Onethentwins: I second that concern about child trafficking. It is not popular to speak about and I get trashed even mentioning that in my friend groups (in person) who have adopted. Not popular. We are finding out that thousands of children have been kidnapped and are living here in the United States and Europe. If I had to guess I'm sure this topic would start a huge debate. I'm for international adoption - just not for child trafficking. Actually Russia has the best international program going right now as far as protecting the adoptee and their young citizens. While parents have to jump through many more hoops than most international adoption situations, when you bring your child home you know that child is truly your child legally and ethically.
Answer by frogdawg at 3:58 PM on Sep. 19, 2009
Answer by Southernroots at 7:53 PM on Sep. 19, 2009
Answer by Southernroots at 8:00 PM on Sep. 19, 2009
In China, some stolen children, are claimed as abandoned. The traffickers go across the country where the child was stolen from and then tells the agency the child was found without a home or caregivers. Adds are placed in the location the child was said to be "found" and then from there the baby gets into the system and is legal as far as the agency and the country is concerned. Parents who have had a child stolen are usually too poor to hire detectives or go to the police. If I were to ever do international adoption I would need a DNA test to know that the woman who signed the papers is the woman who is actually the mother. That is the other problem. Women posing as the birthmother. I often feel overwhelmed. We have genocide going on, human trafficking, and other horrors yet no one seems to give a damn. Not really enough to actually make it stop.
Answer by frogdawg at 9:19 PM on Sep. 19, 2009
Answer by mcginnisc at 10:04 PM on Sep. 19, 2009