The adoption of my stepson is final now! The biofamily have been trying to be very controlling over when they see him and what they want done with him. I want to write them a letter because they don't listen to me when i talk to them on the phone.
These are the problems: they give him medication when I ask them not to, they get him immunizations when I ask them not to, they take him to his biomom's grave when I asked them not to. They have no respect for the fact that I am raising him now and they are risking loosing their visits. His pychologist already told me to end the visits or give them supervised visits. I'm trying not to but, they aren't giving me many choices. My son has a lot of mental problems from his mother, I am trying to help him and they do the opposite of what I ask them. How can I put this into a letter. It was a complete adoption with closed files and records and a new BC.
Answer by doodlebopfan at 2:01 PM on Sep. 20, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 12:41 PM on Sep. 19, 2009
I could be wrong but it would seem the medication and vax issues are a legal issue.Isn't against the law for someone to have a child medicated without written permission from parent or legal guardian?This would be the same as my closest friend or one of my SIL's doing this against my wishes to my children...loving them doesn't give rights.Know you are working hard on a good relationship but supervised visits may have to be the answer to protect your child.Good Luck
Answer by drfink at 1:05 PM on Sep. 19, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 1:07 PM on Sep. 19, 2009
Answer by fan-tammyo at 1:12 PM on Sep. 19, 2009
Answer by matthewscandi at 1:17 PM on Sep. 19, 2009
cont Could your child's therapist help you word the letter so that is only about the child needs? Maybe not even go into the causes of the issues.Perhaps what the issues are,.then what behavior supported the diagnose and then what needs to be in place for the child to be successful in overcoming the issues.General ones not details for your part but detailed as to them.Just an idea.
Answer by drfink at 1:18 PM on Sep. 19, 2009
lol don't mean to make a joke of this but that is my mom too.Kind of like the greatgrandmother also.Sometimes I think my mom has watched too many night time soaps where there is a matriarch that runs every detail of the family and my mom thinks that is her role.I laugh to not get mad
Answer by drfink at 1:30 PM on Sep. 19, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 3:35 PM on Sep. 19, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 3:38 PM on Sep. 19, 2009
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