I love my husband because of the history and children we have together, but I dont feel the love for him that a marriage needs to survive. We could stay together and I could be content as friends, but I am lacking the happiness i should feel. I am not going thru a mid-life crisis or anything. I am 47. Have tried for years to make it work. He shut down on me several years ago, but now with the prospect of losing me , he wants to try and make it work. My feelings however have changed and try as I may, I can't seem to get them back. The children (18 and 21) are angry at me for not trying harder. I see my life 5 years down the road when they are living their own lives and I dont like what I see. I dont think I should stay for the kids, but I have invested 25+ years with this man. I am torn between my own feelings of happiness and my feelings of commitment. He does not treat me bad. Any advice would be appreciated.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 7:47 PM on Sep. 20, 2009 in Relationships
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Answer by mamacotten at 10:11 PM on Sep. 20, 2009
I'm Anon:57 - In regards to "won't regret it when grandbabies come visit grandma and grandpa" - you probably won't regret that but you may have a whole slew of other regrets. I don't think you should throw 25 years of marriage out over a tingly feeling - but I think I know how you feel.
I worry that I'm going to be 30 and finally realize that I really don't want to be with him. I hate that it might take me that long. THAT'S why I think a separation is good advice. It's not quite divorcing but it's getting some space. Having a minute to breath and figure out what YOU need to do. And if you both can figure it out and make it work, then stay together. If you can't and you realize you like being separated, get divorced.
Answer by Anonymous at 3:09 AM on Sep. 21, 2009
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