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My son is not circumcised. Did I made the right choice?

I'm a mother of a toddler (1yr 8 1/2 month) whom I didn't put through the circumcision when he was born. I just want to know the experience and pros and cons of circumcise a child and to leave them uncircumcised.

I'm in a certain crossroad because I'm a Catholic and religiously it should be and want it to be done, but what the story I've heard it's pretty scary.

I just want to see the cases of other real moms who had to be put through this difficult yet important desicion and what have been their outcomes.

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Atenea

Asked by Atenea at 11:25 PM on Sep. 20, 2009 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • I didn't circumcise either of my sons and neither did my sister. It is really no big deal and most males in the world are intact. If your son wants to be circumcised later on he can but there is no way to uncircumcise him. You did the right thing. Now stop worrying.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:29 PM on Sep. 20, 2009

  • I did it when my son was born. I would question how they would do it to a child that age.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:29 PM on Sep. 20, 2009

  • i have two boys. one circ'd and the other not circ'd
    The only con to not circing (IMO) is that you have to teach him how to clean it. Our doctor said typically this needs to start around the age of five or so. before that it isn't a big deal. And really, it isnt much of a deal anyways. They just pull the skin back a little and flush around some water and it's clean. (in most cases).
    The con to getting circ'd is that the child looses a LOT of senses that he'd otherwise have. the foreskin has thousands of nerve endings in it that either got destroyed or removed during the circumcision.

    I personally believe that it can be traumatizing for some children. no matter how young they are when the circumcising takes place.

    Did you make the right choice? ...eh. i dont think there is a "right" choice. What's important is that you (hopefully) made an informed choice. :)
    outstandingLove

    Answer by outstandingLove at 11:31 PM on Sep. 20, 2009

  • Okay honestly, I didn't have my son circumsized either, most mom's will tell you its dirtier and that they are more likely to get infection, etc... My husband never understood why i didn't want to have my so circumsized he told me that all the other children would make fun of him when he had to go into the shower room at school. I knew for one that it would be harder to breast feed my son when we were in the hospital and i also knew of the pain that it would cause him, however i know this might sound out there but my ex fiancee wasn't circumsized and he had a huge pee bug, people told me they get there size from there father etc... My husband has enough but i'd rather have my son be made fun of in the locker room for his uncircumsized penis rater than his small pecker. (one part of the spectrum my husband will never know) Okay to much honesty for one night hope this helped.
    Bluesdawg02

    Answer by Bluesdawg02 at 11:31 PM on Sep. 20, 2009

  • It's whatever you feel is best for your child. I circumcised mine just because the risk for infection is higher for uncircumcised boys. Plus, I think more men are circumcised than not. JMO Oh and I think that he would rather it be done when he can't remember rather than at an older age when he can freak himself out about it.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:32 PM on Sep. 20, 2009

  • My son was circumcised when he was born. He had no trouble with it at all. However, I don't know how it would be for an older child. You are his mother and when it comes down to it, it's your decision to make in the best interest of your child. I wish you luck, and don't feel bad for not doing it, if you are just worried about your family's opinion, okay.
    heartfrommyson

    Answer by heartfrommyson at 11:37 PM on Sep. 20, 2009

  • I think you made the right decision. I think if you were going to do it than it should have already been done.


    I also hope you are not retracting the skin to clean it. Just wipe it like it is an arm. I hope you have joined a group to know how to properly care for your intact boy. Sometimes ped.'s dont even know how to care for an intact boy.


    My son is 20 months old and still intact. I have never regretted my decision. As for being Catholic I dont see how they is relevant b/c it is the Jewish Faith that wanted circumcision so they can be different that the rest.


    Do you know there are customs that cut the womens labia and/or cliteral hood...thank God we dont do those practices in the US. I hope one day that circumcism wont be even thought of as a possibility either.


     

    Loa1002

    Answer by Loa1002 at 11:43 PM on Sep. 20, 2009

  • There is no religious reason to circumcise. There is nothing in the New Testament that says to do so. We are not bound by the old law of the Old Testament to circumcise our sons. My son is the same age are yours and I could not imagine circumcising him now ( I couldn't ever imagine having it done). Here are a couple of websites to check out about whether or not to circumcise from a Christan prospective: http://www.acts15.org/ , http://www.catholicsagainstcircumcision.org/ (speiciafily for caltolics), http://www.cirp.org/pages/cultural/peron1/ . Please feel free to contact me if you have any other questions about circumcision and christainity.
    ZanesMommy2008

    Answer by ZanesMommy2008 at 11:46 PM on Sep. 20, 2009

  • http://www.askdrsears.com/html/1/t012000.asp

    http://infant-toddler-health.suite101.com/article.cfm/reasons_not_to_circumcise_your_baby

    http://www.coloradonocirc.org/reasons.php

    http://www.mothersagainstcirc.org/botch.htm





    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:52 PM on Sep. 20, 2009

  • We did have our 3 boys circ'd, it was a decision we came to after much research and discussion. There is no "right" decision, only "right for you and your son". For us it was right, but for others it may not be. I've never heard of it being necessary for Catholics and I know some Catholics, devout ones. Honestly at this point, I wouldn't have it done on your son unless there are medical reasons he would need it done now.
    canadianmom1974

    Answer by canadianmom1974 at 11:54 PM on Sep. 20, 2009

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