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Why do women who can LEAST afford it continue to have children??

Having babies is not a "career"...if you are on PA, why continue to breed...how about getting a job first and bettering yourself? Shouldn't people be able to take care of THEMSELVES before bringing another life into the world?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 11:34 AM on Sep. 22, 2009 in Politics & Current Events

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  • yea but when they have an "oops" what do you suggest they do? kill it?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:35 AM on Sep. 22, 2009

  • Who gets to decide who gets to have children? You?

    Why do women who work have children if they aren't going to take care of them?
    Why do women who won't bother to breastfeed have children?
    Why do women who smoke have children?
    Why do women who drink and use drugs have children?
    GailllAZ

    Answer by GailllAZ at 11:38 AM on Sep. 22, 2009

  • Because it's human nature. And the people who can least afford children tend to also be the least educated, meaning they don't know about how to effectively prevent pregnancy. Most people on PA don't go "Oh, I'm gonna have one more!" No, they don't know how to keep from getting pregnant so they continue to reproduce.

    I think the solution lies in education and making sure that everyone has access to the birth control of their choice.
    Ati_13

    Answer by Ati_13 at 11:40 AM on Sep. 22, 2009

  • I agree
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:40 AM on Sep. 22, 2009

  • To one of the replies above:

    I find it very hard to buy into..."uneducated people don't know how to prevent pregnancy"...any moron can use a condom or get birth control at family planning...so now you are saying the poor are stupid as well??
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:43 AM on Sep. 22, 2009

  • Hard working people know how much it cost them to raise kids. They will only have them when they are ready. People on government help, never have to pay so it's easy to have many "oops"
    gammie

    Answer by gammie at 11:45 AM on Sep. 22, 2009

  • When you know better, you do better.
    They don't know any better. Nor did their parents most likely.
    In the statistics and with history, children tend to fall into the same socioeconomic backgrounds of their parents. Not all, but the majority.
    If you are taught it's ok to be dependent and worthless, you become what you are taught.
    If you are taught it's better to be educated and self-sustaining, you become that.
    If you are taught it's ok to live like a thug on the schoolbus, you become that also.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:47 AM on Sep. 22, 2009

  • Why start a judgment argument? Life happens! You can be educated and be poor, you never know what life brings even when you plan.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:49 AM on Sep. 22, 2009

  • Anon 43, many women don't know that missing ONE pill can cause them to ovulate, or that antibiotics make them less effective. Many people don't know that you have to pinch the end of the condom to keep the air out of it when you're putting it on, or to hold it as the penis is withdrawn. These are things that are easily learned, but if you don't know that it's that important then you won't bother to read up on it. Doctors need to be more careful in prescribing birth control medications and take the time to explain how they need to be used.

    Also, gammie, I understand what you're saying... but they do pay. Do you think they like seeing their kids wearing outsized, hand-me-down clothes and eating only what WIC will pay for? Do you think they like taking their kids to overworked doctors who won't listen to them? Or living in sub-standard housing? Do you think they have no pride? That's the price they pay.
    Ati_13

    Answer by Ati_13 at 11:52 AM on Sep. 22, 2009

  • Education is the key.
    gammie

    Answer by gammie at 11:53 AM on Sep. 22, 2009

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