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Is this quote REALLY in the bible?

A marriage shall be considered valid only if the wife is a virgin. If the wife is not a virgin, she shall be executed.
(Deuteronomy 22:13-21)

If this is a correct translation then what does that mean for so many Christian wed couples?

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 6:04 PM on Sep. 23, 2009 in Religion & Beliefs

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Answers (18)
  • I"m a NT gal so that doesn't affect me.
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 6:31 PM on Sep. 23, 2009

  • first off, it's old testament... the new testament says what laws to follow and those are the 10 commandments and the golden rule. Secondly it is if she wasn't a virgin before she was married but said she was she is suposedly stoned to death.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:11 PM on Sep. 23, 2009

  • It's in the old Testament back when THEY were under the LAW. We are not under the law, we are under God's mercy. While I do think we should wait until marriage, because it's a sin unless you're married, that no longer applies to us. In other words, it's valid, even if we had sex before marriage.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:11 PM on Sep. 23, 2009

  • doesn't seem fair does it? according to the passage, if the husband gives her a bad name, they give her dad money, and he just keeps her as a wife forever. but if she wasn't a virgin when she got married, she got killed.

    That was the old testiment though. at the time, you needed bloodshed in order to seek forgiveness (thus, the sacrifices). now, in the New Testiment, Jesus was the bloodshed for all mankind, so we don't have to do sacrifices, we just seek forgiveness. i guess that's what God wanted for sacrifice. not sure though...it's a very good question i never really thought of. i guess now if you've slept with someone, in God's eyes you were married, then divorced. doesn't matter how many people you slept with. i'm just guessing here, i could be way off
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:13 PM on Sep. 23, 2009

  • That's for the time in Old Testament not apply for now latter days.
    ocsosomom

    Answer by ocsosomom at 6:13 PM on Sep. 23, 2009

  • No, it saying that a man had sex with his wife and afterwards told others she was not a virgin(speak badly of her for not). The virgin father and mother must spread the sheet that the couple had sex on to prove she was virgin but if is proven she wasn't she shall be stoned to death for bringing shame in Israel
    Ministerswife

    Answer by Ministerswife at 6:19 PM on Sep. 23, 2009

  • Yes it is in the bible but not the way you are reading it. Basically if a women was married and the husband claims that she is not a virgin, the parents have to prove before the court that indeed she was (bed sheet) then the husband may never divorce her. BUT if she was not a virgin then they would stone her in front of her fathers home for being promiscuious. NOTE: this was the old covenant and it no longer applies to us who have the santification of Christ. If you have received Jesus in your heart then there is forgiveness for all sin including promiscuity before marriage. And if those married couples (like myself!) have trully given their hearts to Jesus then the blood of Jesus covers those sins and there is hope for them. Read Hebrews 9: 14-16
    cynthiaesquivel

    Answer by cynthiaesquivel at 6:28 PM on Sep. 23, 2009

  • it saying that a man had sex with his wife and afterwards told others she was not a virgin(speak badly of her for not). The virgin father and mother must spread the sheet that the couple had sex on to prove she was virgin


    That's kind of messed up because not all women bleed when they lose their virginity. Glad that one no longer applies
    KristiS11384

    Answer by KristiS11384 at 6:29 PM on Sep. 23, 2009

  • OK, so I just looked it up and read the Rabbi's commentary on this passage. Basically, there were two stages of marriage, the betrothal and then the cohabitation part. If the woman entered the betrothal, which is legal and binding marriage, stating she was a virgin and then when they started to live together he found out that she was not. Then she would be punished according to the laws for adultery (stoning). BUT, if she wasn't a virgin before the betrothal, and she was honest and told the man then there is no punishment. It isn't punishment for not being a virgin but for the adultery that occured after the betrothal was started.
    Petie

    Answer by Petie at 7:04 PM on Sep. 23, 2009

  • It seems like there was an element of choice in the matter too.

    We learn from the story of Joseph and Mary that Joseph was going to break the betrothal privately...which means he wasn't going to make a public case of it; which would mean Mary would not have faced any court decision or punishment on the matter.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:06 PM on Sep. 23, 2009

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