My Mom tells everyone how wonderful 23 month old DD is, how smart, funny, how much she enjoys her.I bring DD to visit as much as possible(4o min away), skype regularly, and generally do my best to keep her in contact on a regular basis. I DO NOT take advantage of either of my folks. So ..
She's always grouchy when we're around.She has never offered to help, by watching DD for a bit, or even suggested she take her so I can get to a Dr. appointment. She almost acts like she doesn't like me or approve of me,since I had DD. She's got billions of excuses for not visiting, or spending more than 15 minutes at a time with her(she does smoke heavily) She's basically lying to her friends and our family about the time she actually spends with her Granddaughter. She talks regularly with SIL about everything under the sun, including their DD who's 2. Is this some retribution for her SAHMomhood to me? Is it disappointment? I'm a SAHM. Help.
Answer by ocsosomom at 6:09 PM on Sep. 23, 2009
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Answer by Jademom07 at 6:14 PM on Sep. 23, 2009
Answer by Ems629 at 7:19 PM on Sep. 23, 2009
It sure would appear that your mom has issues about taking the time to get to know your DD. I am the grandmother of 8 ranging from 16 years to 2 months. I love all of my grandchildren and even if I don't get to spend as much time with the oldest one( which is a step grandson) I am still very proud of how he is turning out. It just goes to show how well his Dad and Mom are trying to raise him even tho a split family. This could be your mom's way of letting people know how proud she is of how you are raising DD. Sometimes it is easier to tell other people then it is your own child. I have heard some grandmothers say how spoiled or how unruly their grandchildren are, which makes a negative attitude with the parents of the child. I wouldn't make any special trips to take the child to see her. Let her know that if she has time that you will be home on certain days. If you are in her neighborhood then stop by. Good Luck...
Answer by joyfuli at 7:23 PM on Sep. 23, 2009
Answer by meandmyshadow at 8:17 PM on Sep. 23, 2009