We recently lost my husbands grandfather with whom we were very close to. It seemed like I had more trouble with it than my husband. I have also had a couple of classmates die that I wasn't very close to, but it really really tore me up anyway because they were both so young. What you have to realize is that death is an ugly lie. Nobody really dies. It is a transitioning period when the soul leaves the body. You feel sad because you are left behind and you will never see that person again in physical form. I don't know your personal beliefs, but what you need to see is that your friend is in a blissful place away from all the pain and agony that this earth can bring. You will have a mourning a period and it's ok to cry and cry, but know that she is still alive somewhere else. Everytime I think of Grandad, I see a butterfly and it reminds me that he has transitioned. We're still caterpillars. She's a butterfly.
at 12:10 PM on Sep. 24, 2009