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hmm. so baby name change at the last minute??

Okay, so baby daddy left me a few days ago after 4 years of being together...I'm being induced on Monday and he will not even be there for the birth.

First question, should I give the baby my last name or his?
Second question, he always put a lot of pressure on me about the name and he was always putting my name choices

1.) Vanessa Grace Avila (daddy's last name and what we chose together but he hated the middle name and put it down.)
Vanessa Grace Zinsmeister (my last name)

2.) Annaleigh Grace Zinsmeister or Avila

3.) Vanessa Danielle Zinsmeister or Avila


4.) Alia Grace Zinsmeister/Avila

Which name combo do you like best and whose last name should baby have?

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Asked by Anonymous at 6:29 PM on Sep. 25, 2009 in Pregnancy

Answers (10)
  • I like Vanessa danielle zinsmeister

    Answer by effie777 at 6:33 PM on Sep. 25, 2009

  • Me too.

    Answer by MommyKKay at 6:34 PM on Sep. 25, 2009

  • I like Vanessa Grace. I think you should give her your last name if you want to. You might want to put his name down as father on the birth certificate though so you can get child support. I'd Call your county child support office to find out.

    Do what makes you happy, and enjoy your new baby.

    Answer by ohwrite at 6:43 PM on Sep. 25, 2009

  • ooh, i like number 2. annaleigh is such a pretty name!

    Answer by Wheepingchree at 6:45 PM on Sep. 25, 2009

  • Wow! I'm so sorry you are going through this at already an emotional time in your life. I really love Name #2 with your last name Annaleigh is such a pretty name! Good luck!!! I think you should give the baby your last name too :)

    Answer by BeautyFromPain at 7:29 PM on Sep. 25, 2009

  • Question, If he left you, why bother giving your daughter his last name, i wouldn't, its going to change when she marries anyway...i would give her yours, there's no harm in that, and when daddys gone, he gets no say in baby's name, esp since hes not even showing up for the birth, he lost that privilege. but you would def. name him as the father on the birth certificate. i know in my state dad had to be there to sign to it though, i don't know how that works in your area, you might want to call the hospital and ask!

    Answer by sweetstkissez22 at 7:30 PM on Sep. 25, 2009

  • oh BTW i do like Vanessa Grace, its pretty

    Answer by sweetstkissez22 at 7:30 PM on Sep. 25, 2009

  • He left, he gets no vote.

    Your last name is way cooler. She'll get special attention from coaches when she plays school sports bc that's a fun last name to yell out! It'll make her very memorable.

    Answer by ecodani at 8:19 PM on Sep. 25, 2009

  • definately Zinsmeister! and i like annaleigh and vanessa Grace. :)

    Answer by Stefanie83 at 8:49 PM on Sep. 25, 2009

  • definately #2!!

    Answer by KaRaBaSsEtT at 8:53 PM on Sep. 25, 2009

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