Curious of your thoughts.....I discovered that the couple that adopted my daughter have several social networking sites and while sifting thru them, I found TONS of pictures of our daughter. I saved every single one of them....and I also found their website that a-dad created that chronicled her birth and journey home via pics....they're blocked, but I will figure out how to save them somehow.
Considering they're public profiles, do you view this as wrong? I only share them with close friends and fam....my social networking sites have any albums with her in it set to "private" or "friends only", so it's not like I am posting them for the whole world to see. They started to get stingy with the pictures and updates, so I feel I have to get what I can while I can.
Asked by Anonymous at 12:19 AM on Sep. 27, 2009 in Adoption
Answer by truthteller0722 at 12:24 AM on Sep. 27, 2009
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Answer by AllAboutKeeley at 8:09 AM on Sep. 27, 2009
No. If it is public then you are part of the public. Which is why I never put locations or any identifiable information on my pictures of profiles. I don't even list the city or state of where I am from. This way only my friends who know me and I know them ask to share in my profiles. I set everything to private. It is not about keeping the birthfamily out so much as it is about privacy in general. There are a lot of people who are not well and get fixated on people they don't even know. I am currently struggling with: do I try to find over facebook some of his biological relatives that I met? Is that a breach of bmom's privacy? It is a two way street. Some adoptive parents are reluctant to share information but do look up biological relatives out of curiosity. That same curiosity extends both ways. So if it is public access you have the right.
Answer by frogdawg at 11:28 AM on Sep. 27, 2009
The only caution is that Facebook and other sites "own" those pictures. This has happened to me: my son is what agents go after. I have had people to sell and claim ownership of his pictures. We so far had been successful in getting back ownership but you need to know if someone likes the picture of your daughter, they own the site, they have the right to sell it to other buyers. You could see her face on a billboard nationally. Or in a magazine. Now I put only pictures I would be okay with if that were to happen again. Just a word of caution. We tend to share our cute pictures. It is a way for businesses to not hire models and photo shoots. And why should they if they can get it dirt cheap compared to the other costs? If her parents saw her picture in a magazine they might wonder how in the world that occurred. It is rare but it is going on more and more.
Answer by frogdawg at 11:33 AM on Sep. 27, 2009
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