Ok, so this may sound stupid to some of you and others may totally understand but I have to ask.
I'm posting as anonymous only to not look like an ass to the people I know for feeling this way.
Here's the thing, all girls dream about their wedding day and plan out their songs, guests, vows etc... So if you do all that planning and some outside force ruins everything and you end up getting married at a court house, do you think that puts any strain on the relationship?
I would like to hear from people who had a "real" wedding and people who "eloped" as to if you think it made a difference at all cuz I think it did with us, totally on MY part though not his. I wanted the real deal so bad that I feel cheated and I think it made me sort of a bitch cuz it's almost hard for me to be happy for others for getting theirs sometimes. :( I hate it!
Post anonymous if you want but let me know what you think.
Asked by Anonymous at 2:45 AM on Sep. 28, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Cavalrybaby02 at 9:24 AM on Sep. 28, 2009
You wanted something so badly for so long and then you get the rug pulled out from under you , heck ya it effects the relationship. Its like your day was taken from you so why should everyone else get what they want. Its very hard to get past that, you just have to look at the other things that you wanted and got. A good husband, loving father to your children, the home that you wanted. And then tell him for your 10th year anniversary you want your dream wedding for a vowel renewal. Then you can be happy for others but most important be happy for yourself and your marriage. Good luck
Answer by Gemaof4 at 2:56 AM on Sep. 28, 2009
Answer by babyangelromero at 3:00 AM on Sep. 28, 2009
Answer by sailorwifenmom at 3:38 AM on Sep. 28, 2009
Answer by sailorwifenmom at 3:43 AM on Sep. 28, 2009
Technically, no. The type of wedding you have has no bearing on your marriage. However human nature being what it is.........if you feel cheated out of the wedding you wanted then that can definitely have a detrimental affect on your marriage. Your hurt feelings will fester and the resentment will cause problems. You need to get past this. I suggest some counselling and maybe you can have a wedding ceremony for your anniversary.
Answer by beeky at 7:25 AM on Sep. 28, 2009
Answer by Shelii at 8:29 AM on Sep. 28, 2009
Answer by admckenzie at 9:36 AM on Sep. 28, 2009
Answer by Blubuni99 at 10:43 AM on Sep. 28, 2009
Answer by WindyTheWidow at 11:32 AM on Sep. 28, 2009
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