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How can you stop a child from fighting an acting out? Spankings an taking things away havent worked. any advice?

He is five and blames me for his father leaving,When we were divorced back in November.

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:18 PM on Sep. 28, 2009 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • Stucture and Consistency, it's going to take a lot of hard work on your part, but if you give love, attention, and dedication you can do it. GL

    Answer by MommaRox4683 at 1:22 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • Structure

    Answer by MommaRox4683 at 1:22 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • take him to a counselor.

    Your EX may also be filling his head with "stories" that it is all Mommy's fault that I don't live there any more.

    You have to give the child structure and discipline be firm be consistent


    Answer by justgrape723 at 1:26 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • Do NOT spank him. Get him to a counselor, he needs to learn how to deal with his anger and what his father may be saying to him. You have to provide a lot of structure, consistency, patience and understanding. Talk with him, not at him, about his feelings and what is going on. Find our from his father how his behavior is at his house. If his father is filling his heads with lies, you need to contact your attorney and let him or her know. Take away priveleges when he is disrespectful, we he is hurtful take away toys that he likes. But, he really needs to be in counseling and if it can be done, some family sessions would be good too.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 4:17 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

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