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this is my life.. anyone else feel like this? been thru this? Vent..military..

husband is joining the army. he goes to MEPS this thursday and the way recruiter talks he will be going in soon. im hoping and praying no matter where he is stationed i will be able to move with. bc a girl i know her husband first duty station was in korea and she wasnt allowed to move there. idk just worried. and so excited at same time. we are ready to move and start a life. does anyone know anything about the ARMY? i dont care what the information is i just want some imput. please

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Asked by SweetiePieAfWf at 2:35 PM on Sep. 28, 2009 in Money & Work

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  • wellmore than likely he should be stationed somewhere you can go with him ima let you know i grew up as an army brat and then married a soldier myself and it is the HARDEST job in the worl to be a soldiers wife expect long days and times where he will be gone to the feild and training there is nothing you can do to prepare yourself but still prepare yourself because i know you dont wanna hear it but he will be going overseas no doubt about it and it will happen sooner than you think i is very stressful and can seriously take a toll on your marriage i know this as well since i ma getting divorced just make sure to stay strong

    Answer by mom2kaydence09 at 2:39 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • ususally the first time your stationed some where it is state side. the Army isnt that bad. depending on where you go theres always a rick in the road. i love being and army wife. we live on post.,and its like a city within a city. its great. even tho my husbands gone eveyr other year for a full year its a price to pay for the life we lead. the pay is not bad. and the honor of stnading beside my husband is greatful. i cant tell you how many people look at my purse and come up and just give me a hug and say thank you. (i have a handmade ACU purse made out of his uniforms).there are plenty of up and downs. im fairly new to the army wife thing. but not a stranger to the army way of life. ive been dealing with the army since i was born. 22 almost 23 yrs ago.
    there are lots of group on here to help and if you need anything you can always message me. im always on. right now my husbands training to deploy again so im pretty lonely.

    Answer by sandraberke at 2:50 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • The military life is not easy and been the espouse is even harder. The decisions of his command will affect your very own personal life especially if he gets orders overseas and you can accompany him. Decisions like where you live, if you area allowed to have a car (depends on his rank), if you get housing or if you live off base, etc.

    So, be prepared to become a second class citizen to active duty when you need your teeth cleaned or see a doctor, active duty will bump you down the waiting list . Be prepared to loose all sense of control over your lives because the minutes he enlists in it is his country and duty, then his family, so you will be second priority to his duty no matter what.

    Also prepare yourself to feel incredible proud of your husband and the selfless work he is doing, prepare yourself to meet some of the most remarkable individuals you can ever encounter, prepared to be amazed at how much is taken ...

    Answer by bebita at 2:51 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

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    for granted here in the US. Prepared to share some tears of happiness and relief when he made it back home from a long deployment from a hostile zone. Prepare to fall out of love and in love again as he makes his way back to you and away from you. Prepare to become a clay person who will mute adapting to your family needs because while he is gone, you are "it" you are a mom, a dad, a spouse, a friend and everything else your family needs.

    Prepare to fight your own battles in your own war against a way of living that is rewarding and noble, the life of a military spouse. Prepare to become everything you will undoubtedly question if you can be and know that all along there will be your military family to support you and to guide you in your journey. Know that when your husband serves his country, so do you and every member of your family so take pride on that and one day at a time you could do it.

    Answer by bebita at 3:00 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • Most of the time, at the end of either basic training or AIT-the advance training, he'll be told to write down his top 3 station choices, and they'll usually go with his top choice, unless it's a prime choice like Germany, England, the UK, or Italy. I can't remember if it's Basic or AIT that they pick, it's been 9 years since!! Occasionally, you don't get a choice, but that's rare.

    Army Wife life isn't easy. You'll spend a lot of time alone, and have to deal with everything by your self. The Army isn't always family friendly when it comes to taking care of some things, but when it comes down to it, they usually have your back, and will take care of you.

    The pride you'll have in your husband, and in yourself for being able to back up a soldier like that, is HUGE. There's nothing like it in the world. I would float, some days, knowing I was an Army Wife!! LOL

    Answer by debra_benge at 3:06 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

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