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Do you think it is wrong to be involved in a lesbian relationship when your children who are still at home are very much against it?


Asked by zena69 at 3:40 PM on Sep. 28, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Let me ask you this... If you were not looking to date a woman, would they still be upset? If the issue is you dating then they need to just deal. You are their mother and entitled to be happy. This includes you dating with or without their concent. IF it's the fact that you are dating a woman that bothers them then you need to make it very clear that it is more important for you to be who you are than to lie to everyone you love. You are entitled to be happy. If this woman makes you happy you they should be happy for you, regardless of her anatomy.

    Either way, You should never stop yourself from being happy and in a healthy relationship simply because your children don't approve. They are your kids, they aren't going to always like every chocie you make, but it's your right to make them... Go for it! Be happy!

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 5:41 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • Not if it's your home and your house. If they don't like it (the kids) then they can move.

    Answer by outstandingLove at 3:41 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • i personally think it wrong anyway whether or not my kids agree, it is wrong.. not on a religious standpoint but scientific....women are not supposed to be together, men are not supposed to be together, we're made the way we are for "breeding" jsut like animals, two holes don't fit, neither do 2 poles

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:42 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • Yes and it should be kept to yourself not your family. One of my best friends growing up, her mother was lesbian and it really affected her negatively in a lot of ways, maybe if her mom would had done things more secretely and dicretely out of respect then she'd be ok, but she grew up got married and has kids.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:43 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • my thoughts as well, if they are old enough to move than they should move. if they are still young and don't agree, i would probably have a no overnights rule in place but otherwise its your choice not theirs.

    Answer by vabchmommy at 3:43 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • If you ARE a lesbian and not experimenting then you're being who you are. I would be discreet about it and not rub their noses in it if they are adamantly against it. Just be respectful.

    Answer by jeanclaudia at 3:44 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • Why would your children be against something that you cannot control? Fear and hate are learned behaviors...not something you are born with. Is someone putting these negative perspectives in their heads?

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:46 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • Will the children's father allow them to live with him? If their only option is to live with you then you should respect their feelings.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:46 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • If you are in love with someone, it is not wrong. However, the way you present any relationship you have to your kids is something that needs to be dealt with carefully and delicately. You don't describe your situation, but if the relationship you are having with this woman resulted in leaving your kids father, that is probably the biggest reason they are not accepting. If it has been awhile since you left him, then maybe the shock of something so out of the ordinary is difficult for them to get used to. You need to take it slow and not try and force them to accept it. They may never accept it. But then, if you take your time and respect their feelings, they may get used to it in time and even grow to like and accept your partner.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:51 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • My oldest sister is a lesbian.....Maybe (depending on their ages) they just do not understand..
    People older do not understand...

    I do not think it is wrong. It is who you are and they have to learn how to deal with it..

    You are the mother, they are the children..

    Be patient with them hopfully in time they will come around...

    Don't listen to these idiots on here..with the women are not suppose to be with woman..
    or the other one that thinks being secretive is the answer..

    Answer by Dannee at 3:51 PM on Sep. 28, 2009