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make me a list of question to ask myself if I should call it quits

I have tried to talk to him=he is not a communicator

I want to go to counsiling, he went for his ex, but changes the subject when I ask him to go for us

he is not willing to compromise on our issues, I think I have meet him more than half way but can not go the whole way, he needs to give something

what questions should I put on the scale ????

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 7:07 PM on Sep. 28, 2009 in Relationships

Answers (7)
  • Is the relationship worth saving?
    lowencope

    Answer by lowencope at 7:10 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • If he went to counseling, with his ex what makes you think it will work for you?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:13 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • op here

    that is my question

    yes, I want to save, but he is not willing or maybe able to even try to save

    I can not do it alone, not without losing myself respect
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:14 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • whats the worst that could happen if we werent together, whats the worst that could happen if we ARE together, is he marriage material, is he father material, at the end of the day do I feel better about myself being with him, do i look forward to building a future with him, am i staying because im simply not willing to cash out on the investment ive put in on this relationship
    katiekruschke

    Answer by katiekruschke at 7:15 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • thank you katie
    these are all good questions
    this is the help i need
    any other women have more questions along this line
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:19 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • These are the questions you should be asking yourself:
    Why didn't therapy work when he had it with his ex?
    Why does he not want to go to therapy? Does he think it was a waste of time last time or is it something else?
    Is he doing anything wreckless? (ie drugs, alcohol abuse, violence, verbal abuse...)
    Do you really love him?
    Are you only afraid of being alone if you do seperate?
    Is this relationship healthy for me and my children?
    How will custody be split if we do seperate and am I willing to live with the schedule?
    Is he stable?
    Does he love me?
    Does he love the children?
    Is he a good influence on the children?
    Is he adding anything to your life besides misery at this point?
    Are you only staying with the hope that things will change or are you staying because you truly believe they will?
    Do you trust him?
    Its hard to say too much because we don't know the specifics on what is wrong with the rel
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:40 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

  • Just one question. Would you want your DAUGHTER to be with him?

    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 8:26 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

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