You need to turn it on for it to be in your web browser bar. On the far top left of Internet explorers web browser you will see little icons one is home the next is feeds the next is printer, then page then tools. Click on that drop down box for tools and go to toolbars. Thats where you would turn on the cafemom tool bar.
Here it is 6-2010 and I e-mailed in on this problem they told me that they were having problems w/ it. I guess so since I've seen postings from 2008. Thats too bad. Youd think they would of figured it out by now!