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Wedding question! Probably a stupid question...

Do you pay the pastor that marries you? And do you pay to rent the church?


Asked by Anonymous at 10:05 AM on Sep. 30, 2009 in Relationships

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Answers (9)
  • It matters where you live and how big/small the church the other moms said usually there is a suggested donation, but whatever you feel comfortable with...the pastor and church understand that couples just starting are usually on a budget.

    Answer by abbyg at 10:21 AM on Sep. 30, 2009

  • pay the pastor

    Answer by gammie at 10:07 AM on Sep. 30, 2009

  • You pay the pastor, and some churches have a recommended donation or fee.

    Answer by ohwrite at 10:08 AM on Sep. 30, 2009

  • whats the fee usually like?

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:09 AM on Sep. 30, 2009

  • im budgeting...

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:09 AM on Sep. 30, 2009

  • We wondered the exact same thing so I definitely don't think it's a stupid question. We were married in a Catholic church and you have to go through these classes and are told all these things and yet NOTHING was ever said about paying. So finally DH walked up to the priest and asked and he said it's customary to pay a couple hundred. Not sure if that's true or not, but we paid.

    Answer by AllAboutKeeley at 10:10 AM on Sep. 30, 2009

  • make a church donation and ask the pastor regarding fees. some ask only for church donations and some ask for fees for themselves.
    the fees are or should be based on the size and inconvenience the ceremony puts on the church.

    Answer by jewjewbee at 10:12 AM on Sep. 30, 2009

  • It also depends on if you are a member of the church where you are being married. At ours we had to pay $50 for the janitor and that was it. We did get the minister a gift card as a thank you even though he had said we didn't owe him anything. The building itself is free to use for church members as long as you reserve it ahead of time.

    Your best bet will be to talk to the minister where you would like to be married. Every church will have a different set of rules.

    Answer by baconbits at 10:20 AM on Sep. 30, 2009

  • Oh yeah and if you're on a tight budget pm me. I've done 3 weddings under $2000 each!

    Answer by baconbits at 10:20 AM on Sep. 30, 2009