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Me and my BF are both baptised Catholic,..I want to get my daughter baptised, but because we are not married, the church will not do it. Any suggestions?

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Asked by Anonymous at 12:17 AM on Oct. 1, 2009 in Religion & Beliefs

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  • get married

    Answer by lhernandez7208 at 12:19 AM on Oct. 1, 2009

  • we dont want to at this point. someday :)
    thanks for your opinion though.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:25 AM on Oct. 1, 2009

  • how about if you wait until your baby is old enough to make that wonderful decision on her own, it'll mean alot more and she'll remember that day, which is even better.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:31 AM on Oct. 1, 2009

  • Since it looks as though you won't be raising your child in the faith, by living the faith why get them baptised? You could very easily get married in the church without all the trimmings. then later have a renewal with the party.

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:33 AM on Oct. 1, 2009

  • How can you make a promise before God to raise your child to service him when you are not serving Him yourselves? While not being married is acceptable to larger society it is NOT acceptable to GOD. Sorry but your church is quite right not to help you baptise your daughter. It would be hypocritical.

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:05 AM on Oct. 1, 2009

  • Like some said, you need to set the example for your child. I'm only going on the assupmtion that you and your bf love eachother, why not get married, you already created a family. As far as the baptism, I personally believe that's something that a person needs to decide for themselves. Think about how much more significant the baptism would be if it were your childs decision to follow God as opposed to an event that she will never remember. its kind of like taking your 2 month old baby to disney world, she'll never remember that day and it wont mean anything to her.

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:57 AM on Oct. 1, 2009

  • marriage isnt a game, god created it for a purpose, try another church.

    Answer by lawla at 9:56 AM on Oct. 1, 2009

  • I know of a couple who were not married and had their child baptized in a Catholic Church...were you specifically told they won't do it? I know they want at least one of the parents to be a practicing Catholic because when you baptize the child your part in that is that you are promising to raise that child in the Church.

    Answer by whittear at 10:32 AM on Oct. 1, 2009

  • There are many unmarried couples who have their children baptized in the Catholic Church. One of the reasons a priest may delay a baptism of a child is if he feels the parents do not intend to raise the child in the Catholic faith. So if you and your bf are living together and acting as a husband/wife but don't want to get married, perhaps the priest is questioning whether or not you're serious about raising the child in the Catholic faith since you do not follow the faith yourself.

    If and when you decide to get married and then intend to raise the child Catholic, you can have your child baptized then. Or if you break up and one of you decides to become more serious about your faith and wants to raise your child in that faith you can have the child baptized then.

    Basically it's not so much about your marital state, it's more about your intentions toward the Catholic faith.

    Answer by eringobrough at 11:20 AM on Oct. 1, 2009

  • Catholics believe that baptism for an infant gives them the Holy Spirit. But the Catholic church won't let you get your baby baptized. I believe in a person getting baptized after believing and repenting. But just the fact that Catholic priests believe an infant can and should be baptized, and could possibly receive the Holy Spirit during the baptism.....but turns down people for getting their child baptized! Don't you see how wrong that is all around?

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:39 PM on Oct. 1, 2009

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