I love my stepdaughter with all my heart, even though her dad and I are not together anymore. I have raised her since she was 8, she's 14 almost 15 now and she's become one of my best friends. We never had any children together, but I honestly feel like she's mine. She's been so supportive through this divorce to me, and truly understands why I had to leave her father. (He has custody of her, he's a good dad). Her biological mother has been accusing her lately of picking me over her and her brother and sister, which isn't the case. My SD made a choice on her own about a year ago not to go around her mother anymore because of the way her mother treated her. My SD says she knows that I don't make her choose between us and that she wants to be with me because I treat her better than her mother ever did. Is there anything she can do to build a better relationship with her bio mom? I know this is hurting her, and not seeing her...Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 8:55 AM on Oct. 1, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 8:57 AM on Oct. 1, 2009
Your daughter is getting older, & can start making decisions on her own. She will learn something out of all of this. If she truly thinks her bio mom is toxic, then maybe it is better that she rely on you for motherly love & support. As far as her brother & sister go, how do they relate? Is she the oldest? Maybe encourage her to spend time w/ them. Can they go to her dads, or to your house? Tell her that in the future, she might regret it if she creates an estranged relationship from her brother & sister. Sometimes it can be hard to go back to an uncomfortable situation, when you found a comfy place. I understand that. But she should make at least a small effort to remain civil & loving towards her other family members. It might bite her later on if she doesn't.
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