Did you ever make the mistake on telling your dh/so on what kind of ideal man you would love to have but ended up with your dh/so anyway.
Now in back of his mind he thinks that is what you really want even though you are with him. Sometimes I open my mouth when I am not suppose to and get into an arguement. I love him so much but how can I make him feel sure of himself and of me to make him feel that I love him and only him, even though I tell him and show him he still thinks this way whenever we argue or when something to that subject comes up. How would you handle this?
Asked by Anonymous at 12:25 PM on Oct. 1, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 12:30 PM on Oct. 1, 2009
Answer by Ati_13 at 12:34 PM on Oct. 1, 2009
My DH has a picture in his head of who I am, what I should become and his thought is he ruined it. I love him so much more than I ever thought I could love a man, he is caring, sensitive, sweet! But he feels inadequate and it makes me sad to see him feel like he doesn't deserve me! When we get into an argument he's always like "you can find someone better!" When I honestly couldn't live without him!!! I just remind him 4 times a day that I love him, he is perfect and I wish I could be better for him! I don't really expect his insecurities to go away until we've been together for 80 years and die in each other's arms.
Answer by Anonymous at 12:34 PM on Oct. 1, 2009
Answer by melody77 at 12:36 PM on Oct. 1, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 12:39 PM on Oct. 1, 2009
I guess I'm the odd one out because I wouldn't want to be with someone I would have to reassure all the time. You made a mistake, crap happens. You said crap you shouldn't have, most of us do. Well, at least, I know I have. To be honest, what I think in my head is "he needs to get over it, big baby". That may seem cruel but I have to be honest. I would only try once to apologize and explain to him that this is a "fantasy" man, not something you really expect in real life. If he didn't get it or was still down on himself, I would tell him to either grow up or get some counceling. Maybe I'm just crabby today, who knows. ;)
Answer by Katrina3016 at 12:40 PM on Oct. 1, 2009
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Answer by admckenzie at 1:57 PM on Oct. 1, 2009
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