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HOW CAN LOVE A MAN?

MY HUSDAND IS A MUSLIUM, HE IS ALSO FROM WEST AFRICA AND I HAVE A HARD TIME OF HIS WAYS. THIS INCLUDES, HIS LOVE FOR ME, HIS WAY OF SEX AND NOT LOVE MAKING. JUST TRYING TO UNDERSTAND ALOT OF THINGS.HELP

 
2nessa09

Asked by 2nessa09 at 1:50 AM on Oct. 4, 2009 in Relationships

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  • If you knew about these things when you married him, then you may be in for a long and unsatisfying road ahead unless you really sit down and talk to him and tell him. You will have to explain the difference between sex and making love. I won't say "they" because it's not something one group or another does, it's a man thing. Depending on his age and his "experience" with women before you, you may not be able to win the fight. Look at his background, it he was raised in a home where women were property and not equals, they you may not with the fight at all. I don't believe it is in the culture or the religion, it is in the way a man was raised at home. How his father treated his mother, how his sisters were treated and so on.
    Eco-Mother

    Answer by Eco-Mother at 3:52 AM on Oct. 4, 2009

  • why'd you marry him then?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:51 AM on Oct. 4, 2009

  • His ways? Sex and not love making?

    What do you mean, please explain?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:52 AM on Oct. 4, 2009

  • i could neve marry a muslim i know this sounds racist but i grew up around a lot of them and they think they r better than everyone and treat women like shit plus they smell SOOOOOOOO bad. all white for me.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:57 AM on Oct. 4, 2009

  • ummmmmmmmmmmmmmm okay.
    airforewifenmom

    Answer by airforewifenmom at 3:01 AM on Oct. 4, 2009

  • Looks like you two need to have a SERIOUS talk. If you can't get things settled one on one then maybe you can look into talking to a couples or sex therapist. Is it that he's not gentle with you during sex? Or does he treat it like a chore? It could have something to do with culture, but a lot of it is probably individual, too. Talk to him and let him know what you want. Hopefully that works.

    Best wishes in getting this resolved!
    mamasarias

    Answer by mamasarias at 11:18 AM on Oct. 4, 2009

  • Why did you marry him in the first place if you problems with the way he is? If you didn't like the things he does then you shouldn't have gotten in to this position.
    abbynzachsmommy

    Answer by abbynzachsmommy at 11:35 AM on Oct. 4, 2009

  • THANKS FOR YOUR ANSWER. I WILL HAVE A TALK WITH HIM. MAYBE WE CAN HAVE OTHERS THINGS IN OUR SEX MOMENTS. TO SPICE UP THE SEX.
    2nessa09

    Answer by 2nessa09 at 11:52 PM on Oct. 4, 2009