just adjust their age.
My son was born almost 27 weeks (considered 27 weeks) so.. even though he was 4 months, it was adjusted to 1. Now, he's 16 months, and he's adjusted to 13 - so we look at a typical 13 month old development and move on accordingly.
ECI (Early Childhood Intervention) is a free service that includes a free developmental specialist that do come in handy. They work with your babes to be on target to their "actual" age, but still keep in mind, that, had they been born on time, they would've been X months.
at 5:07 PM on Oct. 4, 2009