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Bridal Shower ?

I am a bridesmaid in a wedding next month and this weekend is the bridal shower. The maid of honor is having the shower at her house and it pretty much planning all the details. I myself have been married so I have been there done that you know and I am trying to help her but she says she doesn't need any help. The thing is she is saying how nuch stuff she needs to get done and how is she going to get it all done and I have offered to help many many times. She also now saying well what are you guys going to help me pay for? I told her flat out that if we couldn't help with any of the planning or any details then I am not paying for it? I will bring the food I am making and that's that? Am I wrong for not wanting to pay her?

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:40 AM on Oct. 5, 2009 in Relationships

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  • no when u asked to help she said she has it so let her keep it!! :)

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:53 AM on Oct. 5, 2009

  • I think I would ask her how much the shower cost or if you prefer you could just cover soem paper products. Some people have trouble delegating or breaking the job down. They cant imagine sending someone to buy paper products when they know the color and all other details. She may just be overwhelmed and Id be happy she had it covered and would just give her some $ depending on how expensive you think the shower is. If you are bringing a dish that is great and I would give her up to $20 to help with paper products. If you are bringing multiple dishes I would give less. Just smile and slip her a thank you card with the $ and tell her you in the note you wanted to help defray the cost of the shower, thanks for all your planning.

    Answer by ria7 at 11:17 AM on Oct. 5, 2009

  • yeah that's out of line. You're either a helper or a guest and since you're not helping you're a guest at the shower and shouldn't have to pay her.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:08 PM on Oct. 5, 2009

  • What could she possilbly be spending money on. It is just a shower! Please don't waste money on favors.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:03 PM on Oct. 5, 2009

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