We needed a way to open up to each other and feel safe doing it, so I came up with a box idea. We each put in our "fantasies" and wait until that card gets drawn and then either try it or just talk about it.
Well, I put one in that we talked about a long time ago. We both liked it at the time, but I was half sure he wouldn't like it any more. Which is fine, he doesn't have to, but I went out on a limb and put it in anyway, wanting to open up to him.
He drew that card last night and reacted VERY badly. Now I don't feel safe putting ANYTHING into the box, much less something I'm not 100% sure he'll like.
He kind of has a history of doing this type of thing... not doing little things I ask him for to keep me feeling loved, waiting until I'm a raging bitch from lack of sex to make love to me, etc. I feel like all my efforts just end up driving a wedge deeper.
What can I do? How do I get over this?
Asked by Anonymous at 12:29 PM on Oct. 5, 2009 in Relationships
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