He started preschool in early August and is still having a lot of trouble adjusting. He LOVES school. He has great teachers and a small classroom. His school is great and he really likes it. The problem is bringing him home. He doesn't have any trouble leaving school and is happy to see me and his little brother, but almost as soon as we get in the car the temper tantrums start. He will throw huge fits over everything, like not sitting right, or having trouble opening his water bottle, or dropping a toy. It continues most of the day after we get home as well. I am trying to be patient and understanding with him, but my husband can't stand any more temper tantrums. He only goes to school 4 days aweek, on his days off he is fine. I have tried slowly transitioning from fun, active school life to calm home life. When I pick him up we go to a park, or to get ice cream, or to a playplace. But that hasn't seemed to help much.
Asked by Anonymous at 7:55 PM on Oct. 5, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)
This is more common than you know. Taking things away won't help. Ignoring won't help the situation. He is very normal. Many many many children have difficulty going from school to home each day. The transition is abrupt and for very creative and intelligent children it is hard to turn that switch. A couple things that have worked well for parents: a consistent non hurried routine. From the time he wakes up till the time he goes to bed at night create a relaxed routine. This way he knows what is coming next. Then give him five minute warnings and start the count down with four minutes we will take a bath....three.....two minutes and we will take a bath.....one minute ect.. So with each new transition you are giving him the mental space to finish and complete his tasks. Before he comes in have him play outside for awhile. Go to the park, go to an indoor playground like McDonald's, go do some activity where he is
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