What would you do in this situation

Do you and his father agree on parenting styles? Could be he just misses his Dad and so when he's with him he's great and because he's used to you, you get the attitude. I would think if you agree on parenting styles, it should improve having you all in the USA. Just my opinion.

It will greatly benefit him to have his father w/him. As far as the two of u having issues, u have to sit down & talk about things. U HAVE to be on the same page about things or it will become very confusing for not only your son, but you as well. Communication is key here. Good luck!

your son probably behaves better for your hubby because he is not around all the time like someone else was bringing out. my son listens to my husband a lot better then he listens to me because my husband is more of the disciplinarian. when your hubby comes back to the u.s you should let him be the primary disciplinarian to the children since they respect him more and then your husband can make them respect you