What you are experiencing in very, very common, especially with couples who are not married. When a child is conceived, the responsibilities greatly increase and the seriousness of the future become all too real. Woman seem to adjust to the new responsibilities a lot better than the guys do, and the result is more arguments and greater distance between the two. I don't know of anything that you can do to make your situation any better. If you want the arguments to stop, you can accept things as they are and you can choose to not fight with him and try to get him to change. The sad truth is that we have no power to change any other person except ourselves. So if I were you, I'd give up on trying to change him and work on changing myself and my attitudes.
at 12:26 PM on Oct. 7, 2009