As an adoptive parent, do you feel you are more worthy to parent a child than the child's own biological parent? (sans abuse and/or neglect)
You pay fees for a service that matches you up with a child and you bring that child home to start a family or join an existing family. However...
"... what I call the adoption myth is the notion that the adopted life is superior to the original life, whether from an economic, health, educational, cultural, spiritual, religious, or other perspective. Because of this assumption on the part of caregivers (who would not involve themselves in the process of adoption if they did not believe in this crucial tenet) at every stage in the adoption, the adoptee is often bound into a kind of mutual pretense..."
Is it possible to adopt without feeling superior? If so, what enables an adoptive parent to feel that way?
Answer by Anonymous at 6:37 PM on Oct. 9, 2009
Answer by wildboyz1994 at 12:35 PM on Oct. 8, 2009
I do not really know much about adoption. But doesn't it cost money to adopt? Don't you need to qualify to adopt? Not everybody can adopt a child? If so, I would feel I am better then the Bio parent.
Answer by louise2 at 12:38 PM on Oct. 8, 2009
Answer by Mei-Ling at 12:42 PM on Oct. 8, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 12:46 PM on Oct. 8, 2009
Answer by Mei-Ling at 12:51 PM on Oct. 8, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 12:53 PM on Oct. 8, 2009
Answer by wildboyz1994 at 12:53 PM on Oct. 8, 2009
Answer by wildboyz1994 at 12:54 PM on Oct. 8, 2009
I think some feel they are superior due to economic circumstances and cultural bias. You only have to read some of the blogs and articles about adoption to see where many feel they have "saved" a child from a terrible life.
But I tend to think most adoptive parents are sold on the notion of using adoption as a way to avoid a childless life. Western society puts heavy pressure on everyone to have children and be perfect parents. Those who are unable to have children try to find a way to fit into this one-size fits-all expectation. Adoption becomes the answer to the perceived problem of life without children. Adoption agencies, relatives, clergy, friends also feed into this idea. Add to this pressure the notion that there are unlimited babies to be saved and an industry is born.
Answer by maybe09 at 12:55 PM on Oct. 8, 2009