What do I do? He has made up stories about me accusing me of getting wasted while the kids are at school, being a lesiban, says I never wanted him and should have had an abortion. He is mean to his brothers 16 and 6 years old. He spits on them hits them etc. He wont listen to me. At night when we all try to sit down and eat or watch tv he has to cause chaos and commotion. He is in counseling...we do family sessions...he is on meds. He refueses to take one of his med. He says things like he is going to kill himself he would be better off dead. Its making me depressed to where i dont even want to be a mother anymore and feel like a failure as one...dont even want to wake up in the mornings. What do I do?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 4:46 PM on Oct. 8, 2009 in Teens (13-17)
Answer by Anonymous at 4:57 PM on Oct. 8, 2009
Honey, I do know what you are going through,you are doing all the right things,he's in counseling, you are trying to spent family time with him, I myself is going through a similar problem with my 15 yr. old grandson, he couldn't stay with my DD,who did everything right as a parent,but,my grandson would just have outbursts,we finally learned he was being bullied, which led him to be depressed,withdrawed,and sometimes mean. I have learned how to communicate very well with him, I have learned that even though I am the adult, sometimes you have to back away,it does no good,if he screaming,and I start screaming, I usually let him go to his room,and he will come back talk,for the pass 3 days he has been moody,not depressed,just moody,so I just give him quiet time,he had a Dr appt. yesterday, everything was fine, the Dr. was pleased.Find out do he have friends in school,ask him ,if,he is being bullied.Stay strong.
Answer by Anonymous at 5:09 PM on Oct. 8, 2009
Answer by Kathleen2 at 7:51 PM on Oct. 8, 2009
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Answer by tyfry7496 at 8:10 PM on Oct. 8, 2009
Answer by incarnita at 9:00 PM on Oct. 9, 2009
Sometimes, the medications that are meant to help someone, make them feel more depressed or even suicidal instead. It could be possible that the Dr. should consider changing his medications. Sometimes, some teenagers just lash out. Their hormones are unbalanced, and they each react differently. Some more angrily than others. He's 14 1/2 now, and he will grow out of this stage, I'm sure. I remember being a rebel-without-a-cause when I was a teen, and I honestly grew out of it. One of my girls is so much like me....lol...sometimes, life's a trip!
I'm sorry you're going through this tough time. Talk to his Dr. about changing his meds, and keep your heart open to your son. Keep your cool as best as you can, but don't be a doormat. This will pass...I'm positive of that. Big hugs to you, I wish you well.
Answer by HomeMakin94 at 1:07 AM on Oct. 10, 2009
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