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SO and i have been together for 5 years. it hasnt been all great. he's cheated and what not. and i've taken him back we have a two yr old son. we've had our ups and downs and we've fought and what not.. well recently it got bad because i blew up and started throwing punches. and slaps and i was just really worked up. so i ended up going to jail. well since i came back we talked nd hes like i love you and this nad that.. but i dont think i feel anything anymore is that possible? how do you change it? everything he says irritates me! it maddens me.. uhhg

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:19 PM on Oct. 8, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Well if you are feeling that way then leave the relationship and you DO NOT want your son growing up and seeing and living that kind of life.

    Answer by QandA at 9:22 PM on Oct. 8, 2009

  • i'd say move on before this happens again and you end up in jail again..i read your other post and you said you got something out of being there right? you need to move on from him..change your life!

    Answer by naturepeace at 9:22 PM on Oct. 8, 2009

  • If the police have to get involved in your relationship, I would take that as a sign that this is not the right relationship for either of you. If the law is involved, this can jeopardize your role as a mother. I'm not judging you for hitting him. maybe his mom didn't whoop him enough and you're catching up. All I'm saying is that once you are in the system, your son is at risk of getting into the system too. Little boy comes first, idiot man is at the back of the line.

    Answer by ecodani at 9:23 PM on Oct. 8, 2009

  • For your kids and yours and so's sake all around get counselling. Going to jail for getting p o'd is significant. And not really too good obviously. There's nothing wrong with you getting counselling first then with so. Deep inside you could be angry about what led to jail compounded by jail itself what ever happened with that. Look into counselling jmo lol

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:24 PM on Oct. 8, 2009

  • Been there done that. So speaking from experience the relationship is/has been a unhealthy one & chances are more than likely it wont be getting any better but unfortunately worse. Once so much negative/drama has taken place in a relationship the damage is usually done & its very difficult if even possible in many circumstances to really successfully fix. You said you have a 2yr old? Thats the worst part, thats a unhealthy environment for the baby to be growing up in...even if you think he/she is not witnessing certain things or cant understand or is not affected your wrong & if you continue down that path the future will prove it. I wish you the best of luck, stay strong & remember its harder to walk away than stay, the choice is yours & nobody will make it for you, i know.

    Answer by whispers2005 at 9:32 PM on Oct. 8, 2009

  • you need to move on..being in a disfunctional relationship isnt healthy for anyone.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:56 PM on Oct. 8, 2009

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