My SO's mom and I don't speak to each other. Long story, but she is toxic and I refuse to be involved with her. She has never been denied the ability to have a relationship with my dd, however (only grandchild).
It's been 15 months, and in the last 13 months, she has seen my dd 3 times. My SO asks her all the time, "I'm babysitting tomorrow, do you want me to bring Sara over for a visit?" Her response is always, "Oh, I have an appt", or, "I don't know what my plans are", etc. And I'm the one that tells SO that he can take the baby over to see his mom! (he lives with her, and he babysits our dd while I'm in doctor's appts).
It's sad that she won't have anything to do with our dd, yet complains to everyone who'll listen that I'm keeping the baby from her!
I'm done trying to "bridge the gap" between my dd and her grandmother, because it seems like she just isn't interested in getting to know our dd (CON'D)
Asked by Anonymous at 11:54 PM on Oct. 8, 2009 in Relationships
I'm sorry this is happening to you. If I were in that situation, I would just finally tell her to come see her grandbaby and stop being so childish. If she couldn't put our differences aside for the sake of the child, then I would stop wasting my time. And to those she lies to about letting her see the baby, when I see them, I'd say: 'By the way, if you see (name), let her know my offers to visit DD still stand.' That way, they'd know for sure that I have not been denying visits. In the end, DD is what matters, and kids can sense tension. So, it might be best to cut ties; at the very least, just make sure your DD doesn't get her hopes up about seeing grandma. Then she can't be disappointed.
Answer by NightPhoenix at 12:03 AM on Oct. 9, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:56 PM on Oct. 8, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 9:54 AM on Oct. 9, 2009