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My husband wants a divorce,we have 2 kids should i allow him to see

the kids whenever he wants to because it benefits the kids not me,should i allow that????

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 11:06 PM on Oct. 10, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Yeah, he is their dad. I know its hard at first but its get easier. (he's not abusive to them is he?? that would be a different story)


     

    kellibelle

    Answer by kellibelle at 11:09 PM on Oct. 10, 2009

  • You said it yourself... it benefits the kids. Does it matter if it inconveniences you? No. It's what's best for your kids. You'll just have to be civil to your soon to be ex.
    Ati_13

    Answer by Ati_13 at 11:10 PM on Oct. 10, 2009

  • You don't have the right to ALLOW him to do anything. He has the right to see them. Don't try to take your disappointment out on him by keeping the kids from him. That's just wrong. Men leave US, not the kids. Don't punish them bc you are hurt.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:17 PM on Oct. 10, 2009

  • my bf's parents just got a divorce and shes is being a huge bitch about it and not letting him see his kids. its horrible. the kids SUFFER from it. they are so upset and they are turning against their mother. let him be in their life. worry bout how they will feel...not you.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:19 PM on Oct. 10, 2009

  • Are you really asking this. I am not trying to be rude just honest. Do you honestly feel that you have the right to keep this man from his children just becuase he doesnt want to be with YOU? That is NOT up to you. Those kids will ALWAYS need their daddy and he will ALWAYS deserve to be with them. Yes honey, let the man continue to have his relationship with is kids. They might hold that against you in the future if you chose not to let him see them. Every child needs their father. At least you said it yourself, it will benefit the chldren.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:26 PM on Oct. 10, 2009

  • Yes, he's their father no matter how you feel about him. If you limit their contact with him because of YOUR personal offense, then you are short changing your kids. They will end up resenting you for that.

    abbynzachsmommy

    Answer by abbynzachsmommy at 11:38 PM on Oct. 10, 2009

  • Never by any means become the reason your kids are not being able to see their Dad. If it was the other way around and you wanted the divorce and he was gaining custody would you want him to keep you from seeing them just because of his own selfish reasons, whatever they may be. If parents put theirselves on the other side of the fence none of this crap would ever happen. Parents would get along no matter what for the sake of the kids.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:49 PM on Oct. 10, 2009

  • The more people that love your children the better off they will be. Just because he divorces you has no bearing. He is with a hot mama 30 years your junior doesn't matter. The key is to get the kids through the divorce without guilt and thinking they are are fault. Unless there is drug or alcohol abuse there is no reason for them not to see their father, and the grandparents. The MORE people that love your children the better. Should you allow it? Who made you GOD? If he is not a drug addict, alcoholic, pediphile, yes you allow it. Do not go into court with the court looking at you alianation of a child. You may be pissed as crap at him, keep the kids out of it. Let them know they are not at fault, and don't rant and rave or ask advice from your teenager about this. RISE ABOVE, KEEP PRIVATE CERTAIN FACTS, AND GET YOUR AND HIS CHILDREN THROUGH THIS WHOLE. Do you allow? Talk to your god, and other parents who have been there.
    SEEKEROFSHELLS

    Answer by SEEKEROFSHELLS at 11:50 PM on Oct. 10, 2009

  • YES. YES. YES.
    BingsMommy

    Answer by BingsMommy at 1:03 AM on Oct. 11, 2009

  • Unless you have a valid reason to believe they would be in danger while with him, then you have no right to prevent him from seeing them. He is divorcing you, not the kids. He doesn't want to be with you, but that doesn't affect him wanting his children. If you prevent him from seeing them, and you can't look those kids in the eyes and tell them that you have to b/c he would ______ (beat them, drug them, whatever), then they will grow up to resent and eventually hate you. And also, he can take you to court and fight for custody based on you not allowing him to see them.
    tropicalmama

    Answer by tropicalmama at 7:43 AM on Oct. 11, 2009

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