When do you stop making excuses for staying in an abusive relationship? Seriously just how bad does it need to get before you say Screw it, I am worth more? Should you allow yourself to be hit, emotionally abused or whatever just because you don't have an education? A job, a car? I am sorry, WTF kind of thinking is that??
And yes, I WAS abused. The answer is simple. Get up, get out. Get help. You can do this.
Asked by Anonymous at 12:15 AM on Oct. 11, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 12:24 AM on Oct. 11, 2009
Now, I don't agree with THOSE being the reasons that someone would stay in an abusive relationship. I was working at the Village Pantry and this chick would come in and chat all the time. Well, she came in one night and her face was TORE UP! I asked her what happened and she told me that her boyfriend had beaten her up. I felt SO horrible for her! She came in again about 2 weeks later and I asked her what had happened with her and her boyfriend. She said "everyone keeps telling me to leave him but hey, I've got money and look at the car I drive". I was seriously appalled by that.
Answer by Katrina3016 at 12:24 AM on Oct. 11, 2009
Oh, and I have been BOTH. The person being abused and the abuser. My husband and I had a very volatile relationship during our first couple of years together. A LOT of hitting, emotional abuse, so forth. We laugh now about how crazy we both were then and how lucky we are that we both changed for the better and how awesome our relationship is but this is RARELY what happens. It's definitely not something I would recommend someone else try and do. It takes a lot of work and both partners have to be committed to changing damn near everything about themselves.
Answer by Katrina3016 at 12:27 AM on Oct. 11, 2009
Sorry, I didn't mean to take over your post here, lol. I must be in a talkative mood tonight, lol.
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