Only good things...What was at least one positive (no sarcasm please) from your adoption experience? What good do you see coming from adoption as a whole (including all types of adoption...foster, int, domestic)Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:13 AM on Oct. 11, 2009 in Adoption
The good things coming from the adoption of my child: Our family was expanded and we are raising a child in a happy, healthy, nurturing, loving environment. There is also a practical side in that there is some luck involved. Lucy for both him and me that I specialized in working with children and was able to recognize delays, advocate for his specific needs, and get him the appropriate professional help he needed (and still needs). I call that luck. What were the odds that he would be matched with a mom who knew and understood what needed to be done in his very rare circumstances? Another positive thing is the friends we have made over the last few years due to being a transracial family. I am not particularly one to try and maintain/nurture relationships. Since our family has changed we of course have friends I work at maintaining a relationship and that has its own benefits. Another positive for me is a good friend
Answer by frogdawg at 12:35 PM on Oct. 11, 2009
told me of her being a birthmom, that it was not known but only by a few, and that she is now going to an open part of her son's life. She shares with me updates and is positive about her entire experience. The fact she told me before anyone else we work with....well that meant a lot. Also she still has not opened up to everyone. It is a process. But because of being on this site I respect that it is HER process and I understand her need to do it in her own way and in her own time. Mostly - it is the day to day being a parent. The worries (no one ever said you worry NON STOP), the responsibilities, the teachable moments on every issue under the sun. Quite literally we are in our why phase.
Answer by frogdawg at 12:41 PM on Oct. 11, 2009
Because I chose adoption for my son I have several more people in my life that I love to bits. Not just my sons adoptive parents and his sister, but all the birth mothers and adoptees that love and support me from CUB.
Also, because I'm such a brave person, unlike many birth mothers that are still silenced by their shame, I am able to speak out and spread the word about the myths of adoption and work towards adoption reform. I consider it my duty to do so.
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