My friend has been struggling with her husbands recent deployment, and it's taking its toll. She can't sleep at night. The problem is, she's keeping her 4 year old up until 3,4,5 in the morning. They wind up sleeping until about 3 in the afternoon every day.
That's SO bad for him. We've invited her out several times to different events- birthday parties, the beach, the pumpkin patch, the fair.... all day events that we usually start in the mornings, around say 9 or 10, and she's not AWAKE to take her son out and enjoy them.
I don't know if I should say anything to her. I already told her that it makes me sad for her son that he misses out on all the fun stuff cuz he sleeps all day, but she said "we still do stuff. If I really had to, I could get him up...". But she doesn't. It's not healthy. And he starts school next year, what is she gonna do then?
She gets really defensive and pissy when I mention it.
Answer by angiewith2 at 5:29 PM on Oct. 11, 2009
I don't see the problem. Is this YOUR kid she's got on a different schedule? I would mind my own business in this situation. I can see why she's getting pissed off about it. What you see as being "wrong" doesn't actually MAKE it wrong. And each parent is different.
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Answer by Lifes-A-Dance at 8:24 PM on Oct. 11, 2009
That's not unhealthy just unusual. I mean it would be unhealthy to not let the kid sleep. As long as he is getting sleep and food and is having fun with his mom what is the problem. So what if he can't go do those things. It is not going to harm him not to go. Each family deals with deployment differently, this is her way and it is working. Keep inviting her but support her, don't bring her down. Maybe offer to have them over in the evening for dinner maybe. The kids could play and you to could talk. That would be more of help and then if she needed someone then she would feel like she had a friend. I know when my hubby is deployed I stay up late, but my oldest is in school, so we have to wake up early. She will work it out when her hubby comes home. Support her, don't criticize her.
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