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What do the holy books (Bible, Quran, etc) say is the purpose of marriage?

And what are the duties of a husband and wife to one another? Was this only during earlier times, or do people still accept this today?

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:50 PM on Oct. 11, 2009 in Religion & Beliefs

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  • Read: Matthew 19 4-6 niv; Ephesians 5:21-33;
    There is no male or female.You are all equal in Christ Jesus. (Galatians 3:28)
    But what about the specific statement that the "husband is head of the wife" (Ephesians 5:23)? In English, we get the wrong message from this verse. This is not saying the husband is the boss.
    In Greek the word "head" does not have the two meanings it has in English (where it both means the head on our shoulders and a leader). The Greek word has only one meaning, the head on our shoulders. So this verse is an illustration, using the double meaning that the church is a "body." The relationship between husband and wife, like that of Christ and the church, should be as close as the relationship between a person's head and body.
    Rather than the word "head" meaning leader, the poetic parallel here shows it is more likely to be a metaphor for "saviour," or "rescuer."

    Answer by maiahlynn at 9:58 PM on Oct. 11, 2009

  • My point is BOTH the husband & wife are to submit to each other, love each other .. not letting anyone get in the middle of their relationship.

    Answer by maiahlynn at 10:02 PM on Oct. 11, 2009

  • In Buddhism, there is no religious purpose for marriage. For those that choose marriage, the guidelines are as follows (from the Sigalovada Sutta):

    "In five ways, young householder, should a wife as the West be ministered to by a husband:

    (i) by being courteous to her,
    (ii) by not despising her,
    (iii) by being faithful to her,
    (iv) by handing over authority to her,
    (v) by providing her with adornments.

    The wife thus ministered to as the West by her husband shows her compassion to her husband in five ways:

    (i) she performs her duties well,
    (ii) she is hospitable to relations and attendants10
    (iii) she is faithful,
    (iv) she protects what he brings,
    (v) she is skilled and industrious in discharging her duties.

    In these five ways does the wife show her compassion to her husband who ministers to her as the West. Thus is the West covered by him and made safe and secure."


    Answer by Laura1229 at 11:58 PM on Oct. 11, 2009

  • Well I am christian but I agree with the buddhism as well :) The purpose of a marriage I would say is a bonding of two people into one, who love each other, and through that relationship learn how to truly love and how to overcome differences. To have children and raise them in a finacially stable and loving environment and through watching the parents the children learn how to love and treat their fellow man.

    Answer by rhanford at 12:37 AM on Oct. 12, 2009

  • In the surah 30 Ar-rum, of the quran,

    20. And among His Signs is this, that He created you (Adam) from dust, and then [Hawwa' (Eve) from Adam's rib, and then his offspring from the semen, and], - behold you are human beings scattered!
    21. And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.

    Answer by zanzeebeel at 7:44 AM on Oct. 12, 2009

  • From bukhari hadith we have : Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers.

    So in Islam helping each other in religion is seen as one of the important duties of marriage . Infact it there is a hadith which says marriage perfects half of the religion, and the fear of Allah is the other half.


    Answer by zanzeebeel at 9:27 AM on Oct. 12, 2009

  • So how does the above translate practically, Islamically the marriage has an important social role as well. The family unit is important , and the raising of children with the good manners, is a duty on both of them, Unpermitted sexual relations are considered a great sin in islam , so satisfying each others needs within the marriage bond is required. The man is responsible for the economic provisions for the wife and family, whereas a womens contribution is voluntarily.
    So in Islam marriage has religious, social and yes economic roles in its duties, as well as a bond of affection and mercy to one another, In my mind i see the role of marriage in Islam as "a partnership in life", helping each other along the way with the goal to receive the mercy of Allah , and obtain the good in the life that follows. So i think yes thats still valid in life as a muslim today.

    Answer by zanzeebeel at 10:10 AM on Oct. 12, 2009

  • I like Paul's point of view when he says do NOT marry unless you are lusting and need to in order to keep from sinning! So according to Paul, marriage is to keep from sinning. I'm guessing it's also to procreate as well.

    Answer by admckenzie at 10:37 AM on Oct. 12, 2009

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