I have a 13 yr old and a 2 yr old and my 13 yr old since about age 10 has been emotionally withdrawn. She has no respect or shows no love to myself, her grandparents or her 2 yr old sister. We all show her love and get nothing from her. I have tried talking to her, but she says she doesn't know why. She has had her share of bad things happen such as she doesn't know her father who has nothing to do with her, she lost an uncle who adored her and it seems when she gets close to someone they either die or abandon her. I have felt this is why she acts this way, but it is the way that she acts to her sister that bothers me. Tonight she flat out says she doesn't hate her, but she dislikes her very much. I am beginning to get really upset by her and can not tolerate the way she acts towards much longer.Answer Question
You can't give up on her Mama. With all that she has been through she should be in some sort of therapy. There's no shame in it at all. It will be ok. If the teenage years were easy the phase would have a nice pretty name not something called adolescence.
It's not easy raising teenagers but you have to hang in there. Spend time with just her and try not to bring up things that upset her. She probably sees the attention that the 2 year old gets and may resent it. I know that is not your intent at all. But this is the way she sees it. Mom has not left the 2 year old and the 2 year old knows her father. AND I bet the Father wants to be a part of the little ones life. THAT is frustrating to anyone. Put her in activities that is just for her. Dance, music, sports, art, writing...anything. Just don't give up on her, she is in pain.
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Do not ask her if she wants to see a therapist. Just take her to see one. Let her know you want to help see what you can do to help her feel better. I can bet you she feels just awful. It is time to just call and make the appointment for you and your daughter. Let her know it is FOR her not because of her. It is to help you better communicate with her. I mean it when I say you need to go as well. It is not just her problem Mama. If you don't go as well it may not help you, help her. Just remember that she is still a child as well. She maybe the oldest but she is still a young girl and needs you to step up and make that call AND go with her for counseling too.
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