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what would you do?

-if he does not want to have sex for over a month and there is no clue of other woman? i had think he is gay. he said he loves me and he would not cheat on me because he will lose respect and father rights over our son, since the baby was born our life sexually was totally different beside we stop having sex sept '08 he promise that once the baby is born and my body is ready we will sex more oftem is been longer than a month and he does not want it. here is a list of thing a had tried and non had work
- i stop been naked around him including that i went to sleep with pijamas
- i had buy sexy lingeries.
-not asking for sex
i had done this things but no good results.
what is your advice.

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Asked by Anonymous at 5:14 PM on Oct. 12, 2009 in Relationships

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  • If he is open to it, take him to a Dr. A man with a low libido like that may have a testosterone deficiency. He might not be able to help it.

    Answer by WindyTheWidow at 5:19 PM on Oct. 12, 2009

  • if i am toching him, he tells me to stop , hi is not in the mood

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:22 PM on Oct. 12, 2009

  • you need to sit with him and ask him yourself. it could be a number of things, your body has changed since having the baby, he may be afraid of you getting pregnant again, he may just be overwhelmed with the new baby, having to work and help you around the house, he may just be too tired. there's no way anyone can tell you what's going on, you have to sit and talk with him yourself. GL though and i hope everything works out for you

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:22 PM on Oct. 12, 2009

  • hhmmm...i also agree with the pp, see if he will see a doctor about it. maybe you're right, he's gay, or maybe there is another woman and he's really good at hiding it.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:25 PM on Oct. 12, 2009

  • i had asked him many time, he does not help around the house and i am not ready for another baby, also regarding body change i am 145 almost at my pre-pregnancy weight was 130 and i ahd c-section...

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:27 PM on Oct. 12, 2009

  • i check the computer history, also i have he voicemail password wich he does no know days off he is home he does no go out oftem by himself we dont have babysiter i work in the evening and he works overnite ......

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:30 PM on Oct. 12, 2009

  • Are you sure he is not gay or bisexual. I have a cousin who became distant like that with her husband and she told him later that she is a lesbian.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:49 PM on Oct. 12, 2009

  • i has asked him if he is gay, he say no... but since the baby came home we only share the same bed for about two weeks than ending he slept for a weekend in " my room " because he nepheu was home with us since that we had no share the same bed for a night sleep ^_^ i feel like i have a roommate. i also chek all his porn to see if there was any gay porn and there was not..

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:59 PM on Oct. 12, 2009

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