About 2 years ago, my brother wanted a motorcycle. His wife brought her one against my family wished. Well, he died while riding that damn things. I am so mad. if she had not brought it for him; i would still have my lil brother. now all she talked about is the insurance money,Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 6:14 PM on Oct. 12, 2009 in General Parenting
You know what, that is not her fault. I am sorry for your loss but you are placing blame in the wrong place. She bought it for HER husband and obviously he wanted it. It was a horrible accident, but just that, an ACCIDENT. If you do that, I hope her and your brother didn't have children together.
Answer by Anonymous at 6:17 PM on Oct. 12, 2009
Answer by gammie at 6:19 PM on Oct. 12, 2009
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Answer by ohwrite at 6:31 PM on Oct. 12, 2009
In death we sometimes want to blame somebody,so the hurt can go away,your SIL brought him that motorcycle because he wanted it,and she loved him.Her being concern about the insurance have nothing to do with it. If,you really loved your brother,show it by loving his wife and kids,show it by standing by her now,you all need here other now.I am so sorry for your loss,may God give you comfort.
Answer by Anonymous at 6:34 PM on Oct. 12, 2009
Answer by WindyTheWidow at 6:50 PM on Oct. 12, 2009
I am sorry your brother died. My brother died as well and it is very difficult loss when you loose a sibling. But it really isn't her fault. He was a grown man, could make up his own mind, he wanted the motorcycle....he road it....it was an accident. Anger and blaming others is a normal stage in grief and you may feel like you can't be angry at your brother so that really just leaves her. In the end it is up to you if you want to give her the big Fuck Off. That is your choice. If you have nieces or nephews I would think twice about that. If you want to stay a significant part of their lives then you do have to be civil, not blame her, and slowly mend your heart. I do KNOW from first hand experience how we never completely heal but we do learn to find a new normal. It is also difficult to watch your parents grieve. You have choices but blaming his accident on her won't bring him back.
Answer by frogdawg at 6:59 PM on Oct. 12, 2009
Answer by OneToughMami at 7:05 PM on Oct. 12, 2009