My husb cheated & it's been nearly 4yrs now.I don't know if he still is or not. I don't trust him, I still find myself checking his cell, his e-mail, well the e-mail I know about anyway, wondering if he's where he say's he is etc. Sometimes, most of the time, I think I don't even care anymore.Sometimes I think I wish I could catch him again so I'd have an excuse to leave.Part of me wants to leave and part of me wants to stay. Financially, I'm afraid I can't support my son the way I'd like to if I were on my own. And since we have a son together that just adds to the confusion, I love my son very much and don't want to hurt him. I've had many chances to "pay him back" but can't bring myself to do it. It's so dep.....like I cant allow myself to leave it in past& get close to him even after 4yrs. Idon't want my son to think the way his dad & I are together are the way it's suppose to be.We don't talk , we're not close at all.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:04 AM on Oct. 13, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Jademom07 at 11:12 AM on Oct. 13, 2009
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Answer by admckenzie at 11:24 AM on Oct. 13, 2009
You never actually forgave him. If you did, you would let the past be the past. In my book, cheating even one time is a deal breaker, at least for me it is. I know myself, i know i will have trust issues. And i do not want to be in a relationship where i do not trust the person i was supposed to trust most. Some people never get over it. Have you tried coupled counseling? Have you voiced to him that you still struggle to trust him these days? you know, communication can really do a lot in a relationship.
Answer by samurai_chica at 11:35 AM on Oct. 13, 2009
Answer by PURPULbutterfly at 11:35 AM on Oct. 13, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:50 AM on Oct. 13, 2009
IMO you should leave. You aren't happy because he showed you that he didn't care at all about you or your child (if he was in the picture then) by having sex with another woman. Of course you're still hurting, he completely betrayed you and destroyed any trust you could ever hope to have in him. I realize that you're afraid for your child, but by staying you are teaching him that it is acceptable for a man to treat his wife like a door mat. That a man can go out and sleep with whomever he wants while his loving spouse is at home caring for the children and the home, patiently waiting for him to come home. Show your child and your husband how much you value yourself, how much you're worth. You are NOT worthless, you are NOT a door mat, you are a beautiful woman and you can do better. A REAL man takes care of his wife and child and keeps his dick in his pants. Good luck to you!!
Answer by Anonymous at 11:51 AM on Oct. 13, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 3:21 PM on Oct. 26, 2009
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