someone for whom friendships are not made and kept with at least one or two best best friends about that age, coming home from school and always staying in their bedroom even on weekends, either failing or great grades, even average grades. If she avoids talking about school with you, changing subject. Doesn't talk on phone or text with friends. ...
Leave her a note on her bed that you who she is not what you want her to be. Tell her in that note she can write you anything and you'll write back, she can same anything and not look at you and you will listen. Talk to her guidance counsellor and ask him/her to sit in on different classes of hers without calling in your dd to observe the kids' interactions with each other. Does she take gym? A lot of torment to kids happens in the gym locker room and school bathrooms. Ask guidance counsellor to ask or you ask teachers if she goes to bathroom in school.
ASK your pediat.
at 9:23 AM on Oct. 14, 2009