I raised as a 5'3" brown hair/brown eyes by a 6ft blonde/blue-eyed Mom and a brother and sister who also are tall fair hair and eyes. Both my siblings had outstanding grades, entire family other than me was in Mensa. I was as unpopular as they were popular, I still feel like I never fit in and that my parents favored my siblings throughout our lives. They both went to private schools, I took the subway to public school everyday and got physically attacked at least 3 times.
I have always felt I didnt belong here and yearned for my "real parents" to come back and get me because I never really clicked
The thing is, I am not adopted.
How do you seperate what is the impact of adoption and what is simply normal life?
A non-adopted person can never know what it is like to be adopted. But an adopted person can never know what it's like not to be adopted.
Asked by Anonymous at 9:15 AM on Oct. 15, 2009 in Adoption
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 3:34 PM on Oct. 16, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 9:41 AM on Oct. 15, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 10:32 AM on Oct. 15, 2009
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 11:39 AM on Oct. 15, 2009
You left out a lot of details that may explain why are feel so "different:" -Where is your father? Is he the father of your siblings? Was he active in your childhood? -You only talk about your mother -was there a divorce or remarriage? -Was there a change in economic circumstances that made it impossible for your mother to send you to private school? -Do you interact with your grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles? Are ANY of them similar to you in appearance, personality, intellect, talents? For anonymous above, natural mothers do not want their children to be harmed by adoption. Unfortunately (upon reunion) they are often challenged by the difficulties their children faced by being adopted.
Answer by maybe09 at 12:26 PM on Oct. 15, 2009
Answer by bellacocco at 12:34 PM on Oct. 15, 2009
Answer by Southernroots at 2:05 PM on Oct. 15, 2009
Answer by doodlebopfan at 3:30 PM on Oct. 15, 2009
Answer by Southernroots at 4:24 PM on Oct. 15, 2009
As SR said that is crap .Last summer I found out my birth son is happy,well adjusted,has a good relationship with his parents and family and successful in his career.I had always wondered and hoped for the very best for him,It was a huge relief to know his life had been good.A dream come true for me.It appears that he doesn't know he is adopted so this is probably the end of the road on my part but as heartbreaking as that is for me I keep the knowledge of his happiness close to my heart, it out weighs my heartbreak.You are clueless anom 9:32
Answer by drfink at 5:34 PM on Oct. 15, 2009