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Would You Say Something?

There is a woman in my town who has a huge cyst (I think) on her face. I want to ask SO badly what happened but I'm scared that she'll be upset. Is there a polite way to ask?


Asked by Anonymous at 9:58 PM on Oct. 15, 2009 in Just for Fun

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  • I have to agree with Katrina3016. I am a child of abuse as well. I have a Very large, scar that runs the length of my forearm. My father got drunk one night and took a knife to me and my brother. People often ask what happened and I usually make up a lie as well. But I will not answer at all if they are like " What the HELL happened to your arm?" or something similar. If they ask nicely I will respond nicely, but only my closest friends and family know what really happened. Also, my son has a really bad burn scar on his arm. He was staying the night at my moms house and they had a house fire. My sons arm was burnt while they were trying to get out. Some people ask what happened with an accusitory (sp) tone. Like DH or I abused him or something. I usually give them a pretty rude answer, but when people ask nicely I will answer nicely. My moms face was burnt pretty bad too. She wont talk about it at all. Not even with me.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:22 AM on Oct. 16, 2009

  • If you were missing an ear...would you want everyone asking you what happened? Leave the poor woman alone.

    Answer by aklebeyers at 9:59 PM on Oct. 15, 2009

  • i dont think there is a nice way to say..what happened to your face. lol sorry but i really dont think theres a nice way to put that. ;)

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:59 PM on Oct. 15, 2009

  • I cant think of a nice way to put it either. I would just keep wondering and not ask. I know I would be embarassed if someone asked me.

    Answer by Amanda7891 at 10:02 PM on Oct. 15, 2009

  • This depends on the person themselves.  When I was 2 my dad slammed my head into a humidifier and it left a cyst on the right side of my eye lid/forehead.  Do I mind when people ask me about it?  That depends on HOW they ask.  When someone says "DAMN WHAT HAPPENED TO YOUR EYE"?  I often have something not so flattering to point out on them and I call them on it.  Example:  Why are you so fat?  Why don't you brush your teeth?  If someone says "Can I ask what happened to your eye"?  I'll respond with telling them that I fell down the stairs at a young age.  Not everyone wants to hear about abuse towards a 2 year old so lets say the person who asks has a little one with them, I use that lie.


    Answer by Katrina3016 at 10:02 PM on Oct. 15, 2009

  • Oh, and I use that lie if it's a child who asks also!  Honestly, children are MUCH MORE outspoken and ask more than grown ups do.  Often they have already mortified their parents by asking in the first place, which isn't necessary, lol.   My son is 3 and my daughter is 2 and they have already asked me what happened.  Children are easier to deal with.  They aren't judgemental, they are just genuinely curious, lol.


    Answer by Katrina3016 at 10:06 PM on Oct. 15, 2009

  • I wouldn't say anything directly to her if I didn't know her, but I sure would ask around. Someone has to know!

    Answer by Pnukey at 10:07 PM on Oct. 15, 2009

  • I think it's just rude. Plain and simple. It's especially rude when people let their children ask questions about whats "wrong" with someone! Learn some manners idiots!

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:28 PM on Oct. 15, 2009

  • Absolutely not.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:33 PM on Oct. 15, 2009

  • I would go ahead and ask. Either shell get mad or she wont.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:34 PM on Oct. 15, 2009