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Divorce and Annulment question?

I am not a religious person. But i have a question. How is a divorce any worse then having an Annulment? If you have an annulment then you have had premarital sex and last i remember that was wrong. I just don't understand the whole process. someone please explain.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 3:56 PM on Oct. 16, 2009 in Religion & Beliefs

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  • i thought annulments are made for when you DONT have any sexual relations...thats what i always thought...thats why the church favors an annulment...cause an annulment is meaning the marriage never happened as far as anyone is concerned...you usually can only have one if the marriage is so old(not sure how long but its short) or if there is no sexual relations involved...otherwise you cant get one.
    blueeyedgrl2377

    Answer by blueeyedgrl2377 at 4:03 PM on Oct. 16, 2009

  • I always wondered how they know if there has been sexual relations. How do they enforce that?
    Ati_13

    Answer by Ati_13 at 4:07 PM on Oct. 16, 2009

  • As far as I understand, a church annulment has to do with the sacramental validity of a marriage and not it's civil status. If you were legally married, in the eyes of the state in a civil sense, when your children were born they are not illegitimate even if you get a divorce and/or annulment.
    whittear

    Answer by whittear at 4:15 PM on Oct. 16, 2009

  • At least for the Catholic church, an annulment is NOT based on whether the marriage was consummated (there was sex). The real consideration is whether the marriage was valid at all. If one party went in under false pretenses, then it's considered a false marriage and can be annulled. But it's NOT an easy process and not for someone who wants to keep things private from the family...family members have to fill out questionnaires about what they knew of the marriage. Lack of that kind of input can result in a denial of the annulment. That's what happened with my husband.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 4:17 PM on Oct. 16, 2009

  • Frankly to me their just the same thing with different names.

    MAKEMYDAY101

    Answer by MAKEMYDAY101 at 4:20 PM on Oct. 16, 2009

  • An annulment is a church process and a divorce is a civil process.
    ave.maria.

    Answer by ave.maria. at 4:21 PM on Oct. 16, 2009

  • By the way- it is typically much easier to obtain a divorce than an annullment. I know someone who had to wait 2 yrs for her annullment. I also know someone that was denied an annullment. An annullment is not a sure thing, and divorce is.
    ave.maria.

    Answer by ave.maria. at 4:22 PM on Oct. 16, 2009

  • You can get an annulment in the Catholic Church at any point during the marriage, after days or years. It's not something that's easily obtained and just because you ask for one does not mean they will grant you one. If you get a civil divorce and do not get an annulment you are still considered married in the eyes of the Church. So in a Catholic sense they are not the same thing.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:23 PM on Oct. 16, 2009

  • hehe i just learned something new! i was completely wrong! eep!
    blueeyedgrl2377

    Answer by blueeyedgrl2377 at 4:56 PM on Oct. 16, 2009

  • An annulment is different from a divorce because a divorce applies to a valid marriage relationship that is dissolved/ended based on causes and problems that arise after the wedding ceremony. An annulment is based on the idea that the marriage was void or voidable when it took place. An annulment decree, in effect, declares that the marriage never existed.

    A legal annulment decrees that a legal marriage didn't happen. Grounds for a legal annulment would include fraud, physical or mental incapacity, and force or duress. (These would also apply to a Catholic annulment as well.) Doesn't matter whether or not the marriage was consumated.

    A Catholic annulment decrees that a sacramental marriage didn't exist. So a Catholic annulment doesn't say that a legal marriage didn't occur - just that the sacrament of marriage didn't occur.
    eringobrough

    Answer by eringobrough at 5:48 PM on Oct. 16, 2009

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