I must respectfully disagree with the idea that she should respect you simply because you are older. But that's sort of beside the point. I think trust is probably more of an issue here. Depending on how long you and her dad been together and what kind of a relationship you have, she may not have developed trust in you yet. And if she doesn't know for certain that she can trust you, why would she listen to you? Would you automatically obey someone you don't trust? Most people wouldn't. I would suggest that you work on building a trusting relationship with her. Children are much more willing to listen when you have built a loving, healthy relationship with them. It may take a lot of time and patience on your part, but it can be done. If you are fairly certain that you and her father will be together for quite some time, it will be worth it to put the effort into building a relationship with her.
at 8:05 PM on Oct. 17, 2009