My friend and I and my 16 month old daughter just moved into a new apartment complex. So far everything has been going pretty good except for one thing. Our neighbor in the apartment right next store asked us for a ride to the store one day because her car was broke down, so we gave her a ride, and now, as my instinct told me in the immediate aftermath, it has become a habit. She comes over DAILY to ask for rides, and last night she showed up at almost one in the morning and woke us up to ask if she could borrow movies. My roommate and I both work full time and have to get up early in the morning so we aren't usually awake very late. How would you deal with this?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 1:52 AM on Oct. 18, 2009 in Relationships
I would just tell her that coming over at that time of night is disrespectful and isn't to happen again. You don't have to be mean but in this situation I would be firm. This same thing has happened to me. Except my neighbor wanted to bum rides and smokes and food and whatever else she thought she could get. I put my foot down after I got sick of it and told her not to come over period anymore. Is she offering any gas money? My neighbor never did. Gas costs money. Helping her out once or twice is a good thing, becoming her personal taxi is not cool.
Answer by Katrina3016 at 2:01 AM on Oct. 18, 2009
Sounds waaaay tacky to me. I have a neighbor who asks me for the occasional favor and I learned to ask her for a few. We established our friendship over a couple of years and we never let a favor go un-noticed or unappreciated. We never CHARGE each other anything we JUST KNOW when something needs paying back....lol. Now that I have cancer she brings me plates of food and in exchange she will ask me to translate things for her or help her fill out her unemployment claims. A good neighbor lives with the belief "You scratch my back and I'll scratch yours" attitude. Granted if you were friends with her before hand then yes, sometimes ppl need help. Asking for a movie at 1am? I would tell her politely or even in hidden innuendos, such as, "wow, I was so tired all day at work, I'm not used to being woken up so late". I don't know your personality, but mine is such that I can joke and get my point across. Good Luck.
Answer by ItsMeGigi69 at 2:14 AM on Oct. 18, 2009
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